Worried about kids and materialism and the constant desire for more? Learn how to raise non materialistic children and instill important values. Show  Regardless of how much a child has, its easy to value materials and use it as a measure of self-worth. Materialism doesnt allow kids to learn skills like gratitude, empathy, and delayed gratification. And materialism exists regardless of a familys income. After all, anyonefrom those with the least money to the mostcan still want what they dont have. They value these items and status symbols above other parts of their lives. So we do my best to raise non materialistic children, no matter our circumstances. We can focus on the values we want to promote and redefining what it means to raise kids into the adults we want them to become. What makes children materialistic?But first, what are the common culprits that lead kids to value materialism? Research points to a few sources:
Freebie: Join my newsletter and grab my printable handout, How to Unspoil Your Child! Learn effective tips to teach the values you want and rebuild a strong parent-child relationship. Get it belowat no cost to you: How to raise non materialistic childrenThis doesnt mean we cant ever be excited about a new computer or prefer Ray-Bans over dollar sunglasses. But it does mean being more mindful of the values we teach and live, especially if we want raise non materialistic children. Thankfully we can do plenty to avoid this fate. Awareness is key, as this will guide your decisions on what to give your kids and how you behave in front of them. Take a look at these simple but effective ways to do so: 1. Encourage experiences over itemsI asked my son what his favorite part of the day was, and he replied, Playing the pillow game! Pillow game involves my kids taking turns hugging a pillow and laughing after the fact. They all had a good time for something they made up and didnt need any material items (I wont count the pillow). If you want your child to be happy, ditch material gifts and give experience ones instead. Material gifts make us happy for three months before its novelty wears out, but the satisfaction of experiences last much longer. Think about the first time you purchased your phone. Im guessing you took all precautions to keep it clean and marveled at the new features you can use. Fast forward a few months later and you probably toss it in your purse and forgot its hefty price tag. Then, think about your last vacation, the endless conversations with your partner, or the times you took your child to museums. Those experiences make a more lasting impression compared to an item youll forget in three months. You wont find a price tag on a play date with friends or a special one-on-one moment with you. 2. Limit how much stuff you giveImagine having one skirt. Its a good-quality, beautiful skirt youve worn and cherished over the years. Now imagine adding to your collectionmaybe you have 10 skirts. That first skirt now starts losing its appeal, its special-ness. Take that number even higherlets say you have 100 skirts hanging in your closet. Now how much will you cherish that first skirtany of the skirts, reallywhen there are 99 others? Abundance is good up to a point. After a while, your possessions become plain items you toss around with no meaning. Things arent cherishedtheyre not enough. Soon, were on an endless chase for the next best thing instead of appreciating what we have. Kids notice this. Keep toys and play things to whats enough for them and nothing more. Think about whether they need the latest learning tools or the best toys (they usually dont). Because the more you give, the higher the standards you set. Buying your child a toy car every weekend might bring joy those first few weeks, until she gets upset when you dont come home with one. Rightly sohe has come to expect a toy every weekend and is upset when he doesnt get one. Read more about the downsides of having too many toys. 3. Require kids to earn treats and extrasShould your kids want something that isnt on your priority list, teach them to save or earn the money. Start a savings account for them where they can learn how to budget for big-ticket items. With a limited income, theyre forced to make hard decisions on whats important and what isnt. Theyll also learn how much time and effort goes into making purchases, and that money doesnt come instantly. If they arent old enough to grasp the concept of saving, have them wait before you make your purchases. My eldest had been hankering for stickers for several weeks before I finally bought them. I could spend $2 to buy stickers, but I explained that I dont want to use my money to buy stickers all the time. 4. Limit and deconstruct advertisementsThe American Psychological Association recommends kids under eight-years-old not see advertising targeting children. This is for good reason:
When your kids watch the latest ads about toy cars and junk food, they believe them as true. The less television and advertising they watch, the less theyll take advertising as truth. They wont feel like they need these items to have fun, have friends and feel good. If your child sees advertising, deconstruct the message and encourage conversation. Let her know ads are trying to sell items, and discuss the ways theyre doing so. Talk about the smiling kids, the fast toys, bright colors and big textall techniques advertisers use to get kids to like their stuff. Get fantastic family conversation starters. 5. Encourage gratitude and givingGratitude reminds children how much theyre blessed and thwarts the desire for more stuff. If your child has toys and clothes galore, remind her how thankful you are and for how much it took to give her these. When she receives gifts, focus more on how cool it is that Aunt Jane thought of her when she gave her a new play set. Discuss how loved she is by the people who showered her with presents. And encourage giving. She can donate to charity, volunteer, or learn to share with other kids. You might even take her out to shop not to buy gifts for herself, but for other people. When we give, were reminded that we still have something to give in the first place. ConclusionRaising non materialistic children isnt about shaming luxury or downplaying the joy of new items. I love the feeling of getting something new, and we need material items to survive and enjoy life. But we can also help our kids shift the focus away from material goods and cast the sources of joy much wider. Limit how much stuff you give, even if you have the means to provide them. Focus on giving experience gifts over material ones. These will have a more lasting impression and teaches your child to value special moments. If she wants something, have her earn or at least wait for it instead of giving it at her whim. Avoid exposing her to advertising, especially if shes younger than eight-years-old (and talk about what ads are trying to do if she happens to see a few). Finally, teach gratitude and the value of giving to others. This reminds her of how blessed she truly is with the life she has. Raising non materialistic children is important for every parent, regardless of income. Its our way to raise future adults who will value joy from experiences, from others, and from their own intrinsic selves. Get more tips:
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