What does language as symbols mean?

Symbols occur in different forms: verbal or nonverbal, written or unwritten. They can be anything that conveys a meaning, such as words on the page, drawings, pictures, and gestures. Clothing, homes, cars, and other consumer items are symbols that imply a certain level of social status.

Perhaps the most powerful of all human symbols is language—a system of verbal and sometimes written representations that are culturally specific and convey meaning about the world. In the 1930s, Edward Sapir and Benjamin Lee Whorf proposed that languages influence perceptions. While this Sapir‐Whorf hypothesis—also called the linguistic relativity hypothesis—is controversial, it legitimately suggests that a person will more likely perceive differences when he or she possesses words or concepts to describe the differences.

Language is an important source of continuity and identity in a culture. Some groups, such as the French‐speaking residents of Quebec in Canada, refuse to speak English, which is Canada's primary language, for fear of losing their cultural identity although both English and French are Canada's official languages. In the United States, immigrants provide much resistance to making English the official national language.

People are raised in different cultures, with different values, beliefs, customs, and different languages to express those cultural attributes. Even people who speak the same language, like speakers of English in London, New Delhi, or Calgary, speak and interact using their own words that are community-defined, self-defined, and have room for interpretation. This variation in our use of language is a creative way to form relationships and communities, but can also lead to miscommunication.

Words themselves, then, actually hold no meaning. It takes at least two people to use them, to give them life and purpose. Words change meaning over time. The dictionary entry for the meaning of a word changes because we change, and multiple meanings can lead to miscommunication.

What does language as symbols mean?

Read the following web page about 20 Words that Once Meant Something Very Different.

Languages are living exchange systems of meaning and are bound by context. If you are assigned to a team that coordinates with suppliers from Shanghai, China and a sales staff in London, Ontario  you may encounter terms from both groups that influence your team.

Triangle of Meaning
The triangle of meaning is a model of communication that indicates the relationship among a thought, symbol, and referent and highlights the indirect relationship between the symbol and referent (Ogden & Richards, 1932). As represented in Figure 2.1 below, the thought is the concept or idea a person references. The symbol is the word that represents the thought, and the referent is the object or idea to which the symbol refers. This model is useful for you as a communicator because when you are aware of the indirect relationship between symbols and referents, you are aware of how common misunderstandings occur, as the following example illustrates:

Example
Jasper and Abby have been thinking about getting a new dog. So each of them is having a similar thought. They are each using the same symbol, the word dog, to communicate about their thought. Their referents, however, are different. Jasper is thinking about a small dog like a dachshund, and Abby is thinking about an Australian shepherd. Since the word dog doesn’t refer to one specific object in our reality, it is possible for them to have the same thought, and use the same symbol, but end up in an awkward moment when they get to the shelter and fall in love with their respective referents only to find out the other person didn’t have the same thing in mind. Abby could ask questions for clarification, like “Sounds like you’re saying that a smaller dog might be better. Is that right?” Getting to a place of shared understanding can be difficult, even when we define our symbols and describe our referents.

What does language as symbols mean?

Figure 2.1. The triangle of meaning. This figure illustrates a symbol and referent in relation to a thought (Adapted from Ogden & Richards, 1932).

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  1. Language is Rule-Governed
  2. Language Creates Meaning
  3. Language Shapes Our Worldview
  4. Language is Impactful
    1. Language Defines and Labels our Reality
      1. Consider This: “What’s the Deal with Gender Pronouns?”
        1. Discussion question/Journal prompts
        2. Additional Resources:
        3. References
    2. Language Shapes and Reflects Relationships
    3. Language Conveys Power
      1. Consider This: The Last Name Game - Defining Women’s Identities
        1. Discussion questions/Journal prompts
        2. References
    4. Language Evolves
  • Our language is symbolic, meaning it is made up of symbols. A symbol is something that stands for something else. The symbols that we use stand in for something else, like a physical object or idea, they do not actually correspond to the thing in any direct way. For example, there is nothing fundamental about a cat that leads to calling it a cat. The use of symbolic communication is uniquely human, and it allows us to have abstract conversations about things that are not in our immediate reality. Our use of symbolic language has three distinct qualities; it is arbitrary, ambiguous, and abstract.

We use symbols to encode what is in our heads, the thoughts, emotions, concepts, etc. so we can share them. The symbols we use are arbitrary, there is nothing inherent about the things we are sharing and the symbols that we use to represent them. If symbols are arbitrary then how do we use them to communicate? Communication is only possible because speakers of the same language have agreed on these arbitrary meanings. We understand that when someone uses a particular word (symbol) that it represents a specific thing. This agreement is what makes communication via language possible. Ogden and Richards (1923) illustrated this idea with their triangle of meaning (Figure \(\PageIndex{1}\)). In this example the word “cat” represents both the idea of a cat and an actual cat. Communication is successful when the meaning attached to the symbol is shared.

Figure \(\PageIndex{1}\): Triangle of Meaning by H. Rayl is licensed CC BY 4.0

In addition to being arbitrary, symbols are also ambiguous because they have several potential meanings. If you are hanging out with a friend and she says “check out that girl” and you respond, “she’s fine.” What do you mean? You could mean, she is alright. But you might also mean, she is really good looking. In this case the symbol alone is ambiguous and we would have to rely on the context to find meaning. Meanings also change over time. When I was headed to college I got my first cell phone but at the time most people still had landline phones so we distinguished between our “phones” and our “cells.” These days most of us have cut the cord and now our cellphone is just our phone. If I asked my kids to help me find my “cell” they would have no idea what I was looking for. You might be asking, “If symbols can have multiple meanings then how do we communicate and understand one another?” We are able to communicate because there are a finite number of possible meanings for our symbols, a range of meanings which the members of a given language system agree upon. Without an agreed-upon system of symbols, we could share relatively little meaning with one another.

Finally, language is abstract. The verbal symbols we use are not material and because they are only representations of objects and ideas there a level of abstraction is inherent. In 1941, linguist S.I. Hayakawa created what is called the abstraction ladder (figure). The abstraction ladder starts with the most abstract at the top and then moves toward the bottom rung which is the most concrete. Starting with the most abstract (animal), moving to more concrete (fox), to the most concrete (this specific American Red Fox). As we move down the ladder, the symbol becomes more concrete and less abstract. In addition to relying on arbitrary, ambiguous, and abstract symbols, the language we use is also governed by rules.

Language is Rule-Governed

Verbal communication is rule-governed. Remember in order for communication to succeed we have to have shared meaning. One way to help facilitate shared meaning is to follow agreed-upon rules to make sense of the symbols we use. What would happen if there were no rules for using the symbols (letters) that make up different words? “If placing letters in a proper order was not important, then cta, tac, tca, act, or atc could all mean cat. Even worse, what if you could use any three letters to refer to cat? Or still worse, what if there were no rules and anything could represent cat? (Survey of Communication Study). As you can see, it is important to have rules to guide our use of verbal communication. In this section we will focus on three general rules, pragmatic, syntactic, and semantic.

Semantic rules are those that help us with meaning. When we look a word up in the dictionary the definition provided are the semantic rules for that symbol. The dictionary definition is the general meaning of the word but that meaning can also vary based on the context in which it is used.

The dictionary definition of a symbol (word) are the semantic rules but even though a word has a definition its meaning can change based on the particular context. Take the word run for example. Most of us would claim to know what this word means and we could look it up in a dictionary if we needed to, but on its own we can’t know what it means. We need to know in what context it is being used. “I’m going for a run,” “I need to run an errand,” “He is giving me the run around,” or “I am feeling run down today,” are all different meanings based on the context provided. We would not be able to communicate with others if we did not have semantic rules.

Syntactic rules are those that help us with language structure and symbol arrangement. How we combine words into sentences is governed by syntax. These rules are what make meaning coherent and understandable. In English, most basic syntax follows a subject – verb – direct object formula. For example, Charlie kicked the soccer ball. The structure of the sentence is fundamental to how we make shared meaning. The other aspect of syntax that influences our verbal communication is grammar. For example, a comma can make a big difference in how people understand a message. Saying “Let’s eat grandma!” is quite different from saying “Let’s eat, grandma!” The first implies cannibalism and the second a family dinner.

Figure \(\PageIndex{2}\): Punctuation Saves Lives by Darin McClure on Flickr

Finally, pragmatic rules help us use language appropriately. What is appropriate in one circumstance may not be in another. While you are working you are likely to be more formal with your boss and customers than you are with your coworkers. Think about the words “bowel movement,” “poop,” “crap,” and “shit.” While all of these words have essentially the same denotative meaning, people make choices based on context and audience regarding which word they feel comfortable using. These differences illustrate the pragmatics of our verbal communication. We learn pragmatic rules from our lived experience within our larger culture. A recent anecdote I saw on Twitter helps illustrate this idea. “In Australia we often have a meal where people are invited to bring some food to share. It’s referred to as ‘bring a plate.’ A friend from Scotland literally brought an empty plate and was very confused, thinking we didn’t own enough dinnerware” (Sarah Harris @sarah_sirrah).

Language Creates Meaning

Miscommunication often occurs when individuals assign different meanings to the same symbol. We think about communication in terms of finding the right words but this view of language assumes that the meaning is in the words, and it is not. Meaning is in us. We assign meaning to the symbols we use and there are many potential meanings that we could draw upon. As you have learned, symbols are arbitrary, their meaning is not inherent, it comes from us. While dictionaries can help us with standardized definitions, the word’s denotative meaning, shared meanings are not always standard and vary contextually.

Language Shapes Our Worldview

Verbal communication helps us define reality. “We use verbal communication to define everything from ideas, emotions, experiences, thoughts, objects, and people” (Paynton & Hanh, 2021). Think about what you are doing right now, how would you describe this experience? Are you reading, learning, studying? Are you engaged, bored, stressed, motivated? There are a variety of different ways we can make sense of our experiences and we use verbal communication to label and define our reality.

Verbal communication helps us organize complex ideas and experiences into meaningful categories. It would be impossible for us to focus our attention on the overwhelming stimuli that we encounter everyday. Instead, we use verbal communication to help us make sense of the world through simplified categories which helps establish meaning. For example, think about how you organize your physical space. We organize things on estimates. Your friend's house might be close, but a favorite hangout spot is far away. We may categorize them based on another location. I can walk to the grocery store from my house but I have to take the bus to get to campus. In the United States, we tend to give directions using egocentric language and coordinates. “From our classroom you go left to the quad then take a right and you will see the library.” We could just as easily give these directions using fixed geographical coordinates, “Exit the classroom and head east, when you get to the quad turn north and you will see the library.” Both of these directions are correct but they vary in how the speaker categorizes their physical space with language (Deutscher, 2010).

Figure \(\PageIndex{3}\): Shelli Getting Directions by Alan Levine on Flickr

Verbal communication helps us think. Without verbal communication, we would not function as thinking beings. The ability most often used to distinguish humans from other animals is our ability to reason and communicate. Verbal communication is what allows humans to engage in abstract thought. Animals can communicate about what is present. Many animals have sounds used to designate the presence of food or to warn of a threat. What they lack is the ability to discuss complex ideas. Humans can talk not only about a visible and present threat but also the potential for threat and how to prepare for it. It is this capacity of verbal communication that allows humans to reflect on the past, consider the present, and ponder the future.

Verbal communication helps us shape our attitudes about our world. The way you use language shapes your attitude about the world around you. Edward Sapir and Benjamin Lee Whorf developed the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis to explain that language determines thought. People who speak different languages, or use language differently, think differently (Whorf; Sapir; Mandelbaum; Maxwell; Perlovsky; Lucy; Simpson; Hussein).

In recent years, various experiments have shown that grammatical genders can shape the feelings and associations of speakers toward objects around them. In the 1990s, for example, psychologists compared associations between speakers of German and Spanish. There are many inanimate nouns whose genders in the two languages are reversed. A German bridge is feminine (die Brücke), for instance, but el puente is masculine in Spanish; and the same goes for clocks, apartments, forks, newspapers, pockets, shoulders, stamps, tickets, violins, the sun, the world and love. On the other hand, an apple is masculine for Germans but feminine in Spanish, and so are chairs, brooms, butterflies, keys, mountains, stars, tables, wars, rain and garbage. When speakers were asked to grade various objects on a range of characteristics, Spanish speakers deemed bridges, clocks and violins to have more "manly properties" like strength, but Germans tended to think of them as more slender or elegant. With objects like mountains or chairs, which are "he" in German but "she" in Spanish, the effect was reversed (Deutscher, 2010).

Those of us who speak English are entirely oblivious to this phenomenon because our language does not create these associations, nonetheless our language still shapes our attitudes and impacts how we perceive the world.

Language is Impactful

At the end of the day, I ask my children what they want for “supper,” if it is my husband asking, he will inquire about what they want for “dinner.” If we are going to have eggs or pancakes or the like, we might comment that we are having “breakfast” for dinner. The language choices we make help us make sense of our world. As we explained earlier in the chapter, meaning is not in the words that we use, it is in the people. My children know that supper and dinner both refer to the last meal of the day but in the case of breakfast for dinner we are more interested in the kind of food and not when we are eating it. In this section we will focus on how verbal communication defines reality, shapes relationships, evolves, and conveys power.

Language Defines and Labels our Reality

Verbal communication helps us define reality. If you ever played organized sports as a child you know how difficult it can be to process a hard loss. It is easy to be sad and frustrated that your team was not victorious, but a good coach will redirect those feelings reminding the team of how hard they tried and the fun they had playing regardless of the outcome. These two differing reactions demonstrate that we have choices in how we use verbal communication to define our realities. We make choices about what to focus on and how to define what we experience and those choices shape our understanding of the world we live in.

One area of language and identity that has taken on greater prominence is the use of pronouns. A pronoun is a word that can function by itself as a noun phrase and that refers either to the participants in the discourse (e.g., I, you) or to someone or something mentioned elsewhere in the discourse (e.g., she, it, this). Pronouns are essential in our communication with one another. In English we have historically relied on gendered pronouns that reference someone’s perceived gender (he/him/his or she/her/hers). When we use gendered pronouns, we are identifying someone’s gender and those part of their identity. "Pronouns are basically how we identify ourselves apart from our name. It's how someone refers to you in conversation," says Mary Emily O'Hara, a communications officer at GLAAD. "And when you're speaking to people, it's a really simple way to affirm their identity." (Wamsley, 2021). Pronouns have historically related singularly to a person's gender. Over time, with the help of language, this has evolved to be more inclusive. 

Pronoun Table by Tiffany Ruggeri is licensed CC BY 4.0SubjectObjectPossessive AdjectivePossessive PronounReflexiveSheHerHerHersHerselfShe has a tree.Her tree is in the yard.Her tree is tall.The tree is hers.She planted the tree by herself.HeHimHisHisHimselfHe has a tree.His tree is in the yard.His tree is tall.This tree is his.He planted the tree by himself.TheyThemTheirTheirsThemselvesThey have a tree. I saw them water the tree.Their tree is tall.The tree is theirs.They planted the tree by themselves.ZeHirHirHirsHirselfZe has a tree.I saw hir water the tree.Hir tree is tall.The tree is hirs.Ze planted the tree by hirself.ZeZirZirZirsZirselfZe has a treeI saw zir water the tree.Zir tree is tall.The tree is zirs.Ze planted the tree by zirself.

Using someone’s preferred pronouns demonstrates respect and acceptance. If you are unsure of what pronouns to use, simply ask. Start by sharing your own, for example, “I’m Kristine, my pronouns are she/her. What about you?” This may seem awkward at first but the more we use it the more regular it will become. How someone presents their gender doesn’t indicate their gender identity so asking about pronouns helps us get to know someone better and ensures that we are affirming and respectful in our interactions with others.

Consider This: “What’s the Deal with Gender Pronouns?”

“And just because my family loves me, does not mean they are not confused, okay?”

- Che Diaz (And Just Like That…, Season 1, Episode 3 “When in Rome”)

This quote comes from Che Diaz, a non-binary character played by actor Sara Ramirez on the 2021 ‘Sex And The City’ reboot ‘And Just Like That…” It captures the essence of the recently resurfaced debate about gender pronouns. Sociolinguist Archie Crowley, who identifies as nonbinary, dedicated their research to identifying harmful and incorrect beliefs about language that create barriers to building and strengthening relationships with people in the LGBTQ community.

In Crowley’s TED Talk (Crowley, 2020), they discussed three beliefs that have contributed to the difficulty in embracing new pronouns and new uses of familiar pronouns:

Grammar rules don’t change. Today we use “you” as both singular and plural. However, back in the 1600’s “thou” was used as the singular and “you” referred to more than one person. When some began using “you” to refer to a single person, many people had a problem with that because it wasn’t grammatically correct. Sound familiar? Nowadays, people are having a hard time wrapping their minds around using “they” to refer to a single person, which is the exact same problem people had with “thou” and “you.” Here we are today, comfortable using “you” as singular and plural proving that grammar rules can and have changed.

Dictionaries provide official and unchanging definitions for words. According to Crowley, dictionaries are actually “…living documents that track how some people are using language. Language doesn’t originate in dictionaries. Language originates with people and dictionaries are documents that chronicle that language use.” Living documents are continually changing and updated. Therefore, dictionaries not only record a history of how a word has been used, they show the fluidity and adaptability of words by reflecting its most current usage and meaning.

You can’t just make up words. Picture this: Language is like music notes: there are endless combinations of letters and sounds that create all sorts of utterances. These utterances become words. And words are assigned meaning by their users. Consider these new words that have made their way into dictionaries that didn’t exist when 1999 turned into 2000: Binge-watch, Mansplain, Twerk, Upcycle, and Vlog.

Crowley has established that pronouns and new vocabulary is a way for trans people to “understand their own identities” (Crowley, 2020). Language, like life, is ever-changing. Right now, it may still be confusing as we are all learning to adapt the tool of language to help us define who we are and appreciate everyone around us. The biggest take away from Crowley’s TED Talk? When in doubt simply ask, “What is your preferred pronoun?”

Discussion question/Journal prompts

  1. What is the role of pronouns in recognizing/acknowledging someone’s gender identity?
  2. What is your appropriate pronoun(s)? How does this help define who you are? This short video on “Why Pronouns Matter for Trans People” might give you some further insight.

Additional Resources:

  • A Brief History of Singular “They”
  • Why Gender Pronouns Matter
  • A Guide to Gender Identity Terms
  • Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Gender-Neutral Pronouns
  • Gender-Neutral Pronouns Make Headlines

References

Rottenberg, J. (Writer), Zuritsky, E. (Writer), King, M.P. (Writer), & King, M.P. (Director). (2021, December 16). When in Rome (Season 1, Episode 3) [TV series episode]. In M.P. King, S.J. Parker, J. Melfi,, K. Davis, C. Nixon, J. Rottenberg, E. Zuritsky (Executive Producers), And Just Like That…. HBO Entertainment.

Crowley, A. [TED Conferences]. (2020, October 1). Language Around Gender and Identity Evolves (and Always Has) [Video]. TED Conferences. https://www.ted.com/talks/archie_crowley_language_around_gender_and_identity_evolves_and_always_has?fbclid=IwAR3Z3LLo3LQ7SlwIxxYQGPPQcGtnckdPQC2bgyXkpCYalQ-v04B6QdHtg68

Language Shapes and Reflects Relationships

How we use language shapes and reflects our relationships. Our group affiliations are evident in the language choices we make. For example if you were catching up with a friend at a coffee shop complaining about an upcoming assignment that wasn’t clearly explained or not included in the syllabus your verbal communication demonstrates that you are a student. In addition to highlighting the groups that we affiliate with, our language also shifts depending on who we are communicating with. We can see this in action through convergence/divergence, the use of idioms and slang, and a phenomenon known as code switching.

Communication Accommodation Theory (CAT) developed by Howard Giles focuses on the ways in which individuals adjust their communication with others. When you tell the story of a college party to a friend or to a parent do you tell it the same way? Do you leave out or highlight certain details? The kinds of decisions you make when telling a story reflect the ways in which you accommodate your communication to your specific audience. In general, there are two types of accommodation: convergence and divergence. When we converge our communication we make it more like the person or persons with whom we are speaking. We attempt to show our similarity with them through our speech patterns. When we diverge, we attempt to create distance between our audience and ourselves. Here, we want to stress our difference from others or our uniqueness.

Sometimes our ability to decode others' language is dependent on our relationships. “Cat got your tongue?” If you understand that this question is not literally asking about a feline holding the large muscular organ in your mouth then you are likely part of the larger American culture in which this idiom is used. An idiom is a phrase or expression that typically presents a figurative, non-literal meaning attached to the phrase. In this case, if someone is asking you this question, they want to know why you are being unusually quiet or disengaged. The ability to engage in this kind of verbal communication is dependent upon your participation in the larger culture in which it is used. Similarly, slang is informal language used by members of a particular group. “Are you a Blackpink stan?” The only reason I can even ask a question like this is because my Gen Z students have shared their K-Pop obsessions with me in class. Otherwise this is not the kind of language I would use or understand. There are some additional examples of regional slang in Table \(\PageIndex{1}\).

Table \(\PageIndex{1}\): Table of regional slang examples

Region and Saying

What it means

What other regions say

West Coast: “Animal Style”

The famous In-N-Out burgers started out in California, so ordering something “Animal Style” meant ordering your fries or burger with cheese, Thousand Island dressing, and grilled onions.

No such thing as “Animal Style,” but In-N-Out has been expanding east...

New England: “Clicker”

Remote control for TV or other entertainment units

“The remote” or remote

South: “It doesn’t amount to a hill of beans…”

Whatever you’re talking about isn’t worth much.

“Don’t waste your time….”

Midwest: “Puppy Chow”

Homemade sugary snack like Chex mix with peanut butter and chocolate

“Muddy buddies” or “Monkey Munch”

Finally, we occupy many different identities and cultivate a number of different relationships in our lives so our language choices are constantly changing depending on the context and who we are talking to. This process is referred to formally as code switching. Code-switching involves changing from one way of speaking to another between or within interactions and includes changes in accent, dialect, language (Martin & Nakayama, 2010). Code-switching can also refer to the process of multicultural individuals using more than one language in conversation or other communicative acts. By using different languages at the same time the brain switches back and forth between transmitting and receiving messages. Code-switching among multicultural individuals creates a dual communication system in which people are able to maintain their identities with their in-group but can still acquire tools and gain access needed to function in a larger dominant society (Yancy, 2011).

People who work or live in multilingual settings may code-switch many times throughout the day, or even within a single conversation. Some cultural linguists have argued that as a result of social media, the majority of Americans engage in code-switching regularly. Words like text, tweet, liked, googled and communicating with symbols (e.g., emojis) are used every day, across technological platforms and by individuals of all ages. Also, within the United States, some people of color may engage in code-switching when communicating with dominant group members because they fear they may be negatively judged and switching may minimize perceived differences. Code-switching may also signal a shift from formal interactions to more informal interactions and individuals may code-switch to reinforce their ingroup identity (Heller, 1992).

Language Conveys Power

As you can see there is a strong relationship between language and identity including our relationships. One additional aspect that we want to talk about in this relationship is power. Language conveys power in a variety of ways including who gets to speak, to whom they may communicate, how we address others, and withholding speech. Children should only speak when spoken to. Did you ever hear this when you were younger? This view of language is all about power, in this case the power dynamic between adults and children. Denying children the ability to speak is about emphasizing their place in the larger societal hierarchy. This is also evident in our primary school classrooms where students are required to raise their hands if they wish to speak and wait to be acknowledged. They are shushed and at times punished for speaking out of turn. In addition to who gets to speak we can also see power dynamics in our relationships when we examine who gets to speak to whom. As we have just explored adults may speak to children but children need permission to speak to adults. Can you think of other relationships that also have explicit or implicit rules about to whom we may communicate? What about work, are you allowed to speak directly to the owner or CEO?

Beyond who we can speak to we also see power in how we address others. When you go see a physician we will generally refer to them as Doctor. Doing so is a sign of respect and it also highlights the disparity in our relationships. In the classroom my students may call me Doctor because I have a Ph.D. in my field but when I go to my primary care physician I don’t introduce myself as Doctor because in that setting my professional credentials are not relevant the same way my doctor’s are. The United States is considered a low power distance culture so generally speaking we are not very formal in our use of titles. However, the military is a high power distance culture within the US and you can see that in the formality of rank and greetings. When in uniform, you salute when you meet and recognize an officer entitled to a salute by rank except when inappropriate or impractical. Generally, in any case not covered by specific situations, a salute is the respectful, appropriate way to acknowledge a superior officer.

Finally, withholding speech is another way we use language to convey power. Sometimes we are silent because we don’t have anything to say, but to be clear while silence is the absence of speech, it is not the absence of communication. Deliberately withholding our verbal communication is a choice and one that can convey power. Not speaking is a point of privilege and doing so to deny others the connection that comes from communication is only possible when we have power and we choose to employ it. Giving someone the silent treatment is a way to deploy power even when we have very little.

Consider This: The Last Name Game - Defining Women’s Identities

Traditionally women take on their husband’s last name when they marry. This is a historically patriarchal act where upon marriage the woman becomes the man’s possession. Even as we are becoming more gender aware and the idea of “owning” wives has been antiquated for over a century, most women still adhere to the tradition of taking on their husband’s last name. In 2015, The New York Times conducted and analyzed three Google Consumer Surveys and almost 8,000 opposite-sex wedding announcements from selected years between 1985 and 2014. They found that about 70% of women who married adopted their husband’s family name. While the statistics for this romanticized tradition is still rather high, it is lower than it was a century ago.

Figure \(\PageIndex{5}\): Thinking by Starlit Beaches from Flickr is licensed CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

There are many reasons why a woman might want to shed her last name for a new one when she marries, from disliking how her maiden name sounds to wanting to distance herself from her family. Simon Duncan (2019) from the University of Bradford, UK is a professor in family life who has done extensive research on name-taking after marriage. He and his team have identified two core reasons women continue the tradition of taking their husband’s last name. The first being the “persistence of patriarchal power.” The second perpetuates the idea that it’s good for the family.

The “persistence of patriarchal power” can be found idealized all over the media in the form of romance novels, Rom-Com movies, social media postings of fancy proposals and men asking a woman’s father for her hand in marriage - just to name a few. Depictions of these traditions help to maintain the romanticized dreams that girls can be swept away by a knight in shining armor for their happily ever after. The second core reason is more about maintaining the public optics of commitment to the family. Everyone having the same last name represents family unity. Duncan’s study also found that parents were concerned their children would be confused if parents had different last names. However, Davies (2011) found children to be much more adaptable and accepting than adults.

Women who choose not to adopt their husband’s last name also have a variety of reasons. Politically, Lucy Stone, a pioneer for the women’s rights movement, made headlines by deciding to keep her maiden name upon marriage back in 1855. Since then, it has become a symbol of the women’s rights movement. Other factors influencing women’s decisions to keep their maiden names include becoming better educated and gaining professional careers. As a result, women are marrying later in life and have established careers that identify them by their maiden names.

All in all, even though the tradition of assuming the husband’s surname is antiquated, it is a relentless and persistent social norm that doesn’t seem to be going away any time soon. As is reflective of the times, people have become quite creative with their names. A third option for women is to hyphenate their maiden name with their married name. Some choose to use their maiden name as their middle name. Yet others merge their last names to create a whole new name. For example, actors Alexa Vega and Carlos Pena married and both go by the last name “PenaVega.” Former Los Angeles mayor, Antonio Villaraigosa was Antonio Villa prior to marrying Corina Raigosa. Do men adopt their wives family names? Yes, but only three percent according to Emily Fitzgibbons Shafer and Mackenzie Christensen (2018) in a study done at Portland State University. This result supports the strength of this archaic gender social norm.

Discussion questions/Journal prompts

  1. Regardless of gender, would you change your last name if/when you marry? Explain why/why not.
  2. It’s a “patriarchal tradition” to adopt the husband’s last name upon marriage. How do you think the issue of last names is negotiated amongst same-sex couples?
  3. What is the origin or back story to your last name?
  4. Is there a difference in the importance placed on last names in different cultures? For example, Chinese culture is collectivistic, therefore your surname/last name is placed first. In the individualistic US culture, you’re identified by your “first” name first.

References

Davies, H. (2011). Sharing Surnames: Children, Family and Kinship. Sociology, 45(4), 554–569. https://doi.org/10.1177/0038038511406600

Savage, M. (2020, September 23). Why do women still change their names? BBC Worklife. Retrieved December 12, 2021, from https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article...ge-their-names

Staff, T. U. (2015, June 29). About the Maiden-Name Analysis. The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/28/u...-analysis.html

Miller, C. C., & Willis, D. (2015, June 27). Maiden Names, on the Rise Again. The New York Times. Retrieved January 6, 2022, from https://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/28/upshot/maiden-names-on-the-rise-again.html

Duncan, S., Ellingsæter, A. L., & Carter, J. (2020). Understanding Tradition: Marital Name Change in Britain and Norway. Sociological Research Online, 25(3), 438–455. https://doi.org/10.1177/1360780419892637

Shafer, E. F., & Christensen, M. A. (2018). Flipping the (Surname) Script: Men’s Nontraditional Surname Choice at Marriage. Journal of Family Issues, 39(11), 3055–3074. https://doi.org/10.1177/0192513X18770218

Language Evolves

As you may have noticed through much of what we have already discussed, language is not static, rather it evolves as it is used. Language that was once regular is now rarely used while new words come into popularity all the time. One easy way to see this in action is to look at the difference in language use across age groups. Think about some language that your parents or grandparents still use that you would never hear from a peer. For example, my mom still refers to her purse as a “pocketbook.” Even “purse” is starting to lose footing in my experience as most of the time myself and those around me would just say “my bag.” Another change we see is the evolving definition of individual words. The word “literally” used to mean “in a literal manner or sense; exactly.” For example, “Until I get paid next week, I literally have no money.” Now the word is used more regularly to mean figurative, to add emphasis. For example, “I’m literally starving.” This use has become so common that it was added as an accepted definition for the term, much to the chagrin of older generations. Language does change, and it is young people who are the drivers of that change. Language evolution is random, it is not objectively better or worse, just different.

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